Ibiza life coaching blog: A new way of being
How much of your life is focused on achievement, ticking off lists, getting things done or running from A to B? Do you often find yourself accomplishing things you have being longing to do, yet once the initial ‘high’ is over, find yourself feeling surprisingly empty?
When it is the weekend, or a holiday, where is your smartphone? Is it held tightly in your hand in case of calls, Whatsapps or emails? Or do you put it on a shelf so you can enjoy your time with friends and loved ones or simply enjoy your own headspace?
When was the last time you stopped ‘doing’ and enjoyed just ‘being’ instead?
For centuries, the human mind has been conditioned to feel good about achieving things. The winner takes all approach, which drove the settlers in America to survive and has caused the economy to over-drive, has been etched into the subconscious mechanisms that drive us as human beings. This ‘make-it-happen’ motivation can cause you to feel like you are making yourself vulnerable, risking missing out on opportunities – even risking failure if you are not constantly ‘on it’ or available.
This keeping up with the Joneses approach to life is based on a a deeply rooted fear of not being good enough just as you are. A lack of trust in the abundance of life and your own ability to deliver. Or, of being cast out and away from family, friends or society if you do not subscribe to this lifestyle approach. While this more-more-more approach feeds, your ego with appreciation and recognition when you do accomplish things, it also keeps you dependent on external feedback to keep going… like steroids that create a false inner-smile.
When you do actually allow yourself to just be however, when you are able to switch off the ‘have-to’ feelings, is when you have finally discovered the bliss of living in the moment – perhaps one of Ibiza’s greatest taglines. This releases the adrenaline flooding your system when you push yourself too much, helps your parasympathetic nervous system keep you properly in balance by allowing you to properly switch-off and rest, and brings great joy and pleasure along the way!
Why do people love the white island vibe so much? Because Ibiza invites you to switch into a much more present and vibrant reality!
- Dancing, singing, listening to great music
- Loving, running, yoga, sports
- Lovemaking, kissing, hugging, eating delicious food
- Painting, being creative, mind and heart-opening experiences
- Swimming in the turquoise sea, the silence of being alone in Ibiza’s magical nature
These are all activities that enable you to feel much more present, in the moment, enjoying the experience so much, that your mind stops thinking about what happens next, and drops into a continuous experience of the present moment of BEING.
So don’t wait for a special occasion – remember to savour the flavours, smells, laughter and most magical memories with pleasure, and a true appreciation of just being…
